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Taking a Step Back

Saturday, February 27th, 2016 1 comment

What a difference a week or few can make?

I haven’t been to rugby practice in a few weeks. It was taking up too much time and I had things that I needed to work on at home. I missed a week of and at the next practice it dawned on me that I wasn’t having fun anymore. It was resenting the amount of time I was having to devote to it and it was starting to feel like a job. It was supposed to be recreational fun. A lot of the people who were coming out to practice weren’t coming out anymore and I was missing them. For now, I’m taking a step back and just supporting the team. Today the Lumberjacks play their first game and I’ll be out there cheering them on. Maybe I’ll be out there playing sometime soon.

I had a great Valentine’s Day weekend with the guy that I was seeing, Alex. The next weekend (which was also last weekend) things were different. Simply put, he’s got some things he needs to work through, so he needs to take a step back and just be friends. It was a shock to me because everything was great up to the moment he told me this. He assured me that I hadn’t done anything wrong, though. We’ve been in contact throughout the week. We had drinks last night and I feel optimistic.

That’s how life goes sometimes. Life is still good.

Valentine’s Day 2016

Sunday, February 14th, 2016 No comments

At the old age of 37, I can say that this is the first time that I didn’t spend Valentine’s Day alone.

I haven’t mentioned here that I’ve been dating someone since January 1. I’ll have to write a separate post about that later.

Neither one of us are too big on Valentine’s Day. When I asked him about it, he said that ht always celebrates it as Darwin’s Day. He did want to spend the day with me, however.

After spending the previous afternoon and night together, we had breakfast together, played video games, cooked dinner together for the first time, and watched return of The Walking Dead. There was a break when I had to record a podcast. He studied while I did that. It was the first time we’ve been around each other for that long. Things went well.

I got him a Darwin-inspired gift, which he liked. I just took him home a little while ago.

Life is good.

Portland Lumberjacks

Wednesday, January 20th, 2016 No comments

Because I’m a little crazy, I went and joined a recreational rugby team. It’s a new team called the Portland Lumberjacks.
Portland Lumberjacks Logo

It started out with an informational meeting at a local bar last October or November and we’ve been having practices since then. I joined because I thought it would be good to be involved in some kind of physical activity and I thought the social aspect would be nice. So far I’m having a great time. I’ve even gotten a couple of friends to come out to practice.

It’s a gay, inclusive team. The Lumberjacks are the first gay rugby team in Portland since the previous team disbanded about 7 years ago. Yes, there are some straight guys on the team. We’ll be playing other teams in the Oregon and Washington, including other gay teams. The vast majority of us have never played before. I had only seen a little bit of rugby on TV previously. It’s a little intimidating trying to keep everything straight, but I’m sure it’ll become more natural.

I’m pretty average. I’m not the oldest, not the slowest, and probably not the strongest. Tonight I found out what positions I’ll probably be playing. It looks like I’ll be a hooker and sometimes a loose forward. I was told independently by 2 different people that hooker is the most dangerous position out there, the most likely position to sustain injury. We didn’t have any say in our positions, probably because we don’t know enough about rugby, but I’m not worried though.

We started out practicing on Saturdays, but for the past couple of weeks we’ve been practicing on Mondays and Wednesdays. They’ve been fun and informative, but also tiring. I’m usually sore the next day.

Earlier in the month some of the Seattle team came down to do a bar crawl with us and they practiced with us the next day. We have two scrimmages planned with them in about a month. I don’t feel ready yet, but we’re playing their B team, which is full of brand new players. I’m sure it’ll be fun.

I’m looking forward to the rugby season. I’m already enjoying making friends and learning about the game. It may be a while before we actually win a game since we’re so new, but I still expect to have a good time.

Christmas 2015

Thursday, December 31st, 2015 No comments

Another Christmas has passed and another New Year is coming. I was thankful not to spend Christmas alone this year. Thanksgiving was a little tough. Seeing everyone post pictures of food and family while I was sitting at home playing Fallout 4 was a little sad.

Luckily, my friend Joel invited me to a Christmas dinner party that he was going to. He’s in the Portland Gay Men’s Chorus and some of them had a fun party that night. My company and my runner’s group had Christmas parties the week before, so this was my third one this year.  I had a great time and it was fun connecting with new people.

What did I get for Christmas?

  • Blue Snowball microphone
  • Star Trek shirt
  • The Firefly board game
  • A wooden box that I plan on painting and keeping stuff in
  • A pair of briefs
  • Guitar Hero Live
  • Game of Thrones coloring book
  • Game of Thrones season 4 soundtrack

I hope I remembered everything. I’ll be getting something from my sister and family later.

This year I decided to end my tradition of watching The Lord of the Rings trilogy in December. It’s just becoming harder and harder to find the time and this December I was trying to re-watch all of the Star Wars movies (The Force Awakens was awesome, btw). Last year was I believe the 10th consecutive year, so it’s probably a good time to end it. I’m a little sad because my favorite traditions are ones that I’ve started myself. I always said that the year couldn’t really end until I heard that Annie Lennox song at the end of the third movie, which I always watched on New Year’s Eve.

I think I stopped setting goals for the upcoming year after I moved to Portland. In case I’ve never said this before, I hate calling them resolutions. I posted some 2016 goals on Facebook the other day and figured I would post them here to make them easier to find. Some are repeats of things I did this year. #1 will be completed on January 1 and #2 may happen before the end of basketball season.
1) Go on at least 1 real date
2) Attend at least 1 pro sports event
3) Get more sleep
4) Get organized again
5) Keep doing the good things I started this year
6) Take more pictures
7) Not forget about this list

Usually I don’t do out on New Year’s Eve, but I am tonight. It might be the first time I’ve ever done so. I’m going to a private party at my friends Ez and Andrew’s place. I was also invited to hang out with the Chorus people I spent Christmas night with, but I had already committed this one. It should be a great time. I guess this will end my tradition of buying a bottle of wine for myself on New Year’s Eve.

I had such a great 2015. I put myself out there more and made many new friends. I don’t have a lot to complain about, and what I do I hope to change in 2016. I hope everyone has a happy and successful 2016.

Twin Peaks Festival 2015

Monday, November 30th, 2015 No comments

I’m going to catch up on blogging about some of the events I participated in this year.

Back in July I returned to the Twin Peaks Festival. It was my second year. I didn’t think I would go back after last year, but after news broke that Showtime was bringing the series back, I decided I wanted to go back. Matt H and Mel were coming back, but also coming were Caitlin (from The Twin Peaks Podcast and Intro to Brisco) and Matt A (from Hooplecast and a frequent contributor to several podcasts that I listen to). We all rented a cabin together about in Snoqualmie Pass, which is 20 minutes away from where most of the festival activities were.

Since it’s been so long, I can’t remember the day to day that well. I got there the morning the festival started. I intended to get there the night before, but I had to stay to get some work done. They posted a video of the cabin on Facebook the night before, so I at least got to see it. When I got there the trivia contest was about to start. Matt H participated in it and did pretty well.

I remember going on a a hike to see Ronette’s Bridge. We climbed over a fence to get a good view because the way we came was closed. On the way back I hurt my knee a little bit on the landing. It took a day or two for it to feel better. I also poked a hole in the top of one of my shoes. I still haven’t replaced these shoes yet. We met some people on the bridge. One is from Portland. I may be having a transplant dinner with her and her friends on Christmas Eve.

I remember the bus tour, which was fun, but pretty much the same as the year before.

I remember eating at Twede’s and seeing Kimmy Robertson at a nearby table.

I remember the celebrity dinner, where I got to meet and get pictures with a few cast members, including Ian Buchanan and Catherine Coulson. Unfortunately, Catherine Coulson passed away from cancer a couple of months later. She seemed fine that night. The dinner went really late, so we didn’t stay for the costume contest or the dance.

I remember drinking with some new friends: Gary, Stephanie, and Michael. Stephanie and Michael knew each other. Gary went with us as we toured some of the sites and all 3 came back to our cabin to play board games with us one night.

I remember the picnic, where we got rained on a good portion of the time. We got a walking tour of a few more sites afterward.

I remember my car not starting when we were supposed to go the last official event of the festival. It was a long drive and I was bummed out about my car. We got to see more shooting locations.

When we got back my car still wouldn’t start, and I had to have it towed to a nearby city early the next day. It cost a lot to get it fixed. I had to miss out on the rafting trip we had all planned to go on. It took 8 hours for them to finish with my car because they were backed up. I spent time exploring the city I was in. I can’t even remember the name of it now. I arrived back in Portland after dark. That whole ordeal put a damper on the end of the trip and my car hasn’t quite been the same since.

I’m glad I went back to the Twin Peaks festival. It was good seeing friends I made the previous year and making new friends. David had been in North Bend a week or two before the festival and I believe filming started on Season 3 shortly after the festival ended. Maybe I’ll go back in a few years, but I don’t see myself going back next year.

Hiker

Friday, October 30th, 2015 No comments

I’m hiking now too.  Hiking is one of those things that you’re pretty much required to do if you live in Portland, besides getting a tattoo and recycling.  The Portland area has so many great places to go on a hike.  There’s also some great sites to see if you don’t mind driving 2 or 3 hours.

I lived in Portland for a couple of years before I went on my first real hike, and it didn’t even take place in Portland.  The hike actually took place when I went to Hawaii last year.  I went to top of Diamondhead all by myself.  It’s not that long of a hike, but it gets really tough close to the top.  There are some really steep stairs and I was carrying a lot of weight on my back.  Also on that trip I hiked to Manoa Falls.

Diamondhead

Fast forward to the next summer when I went on a couple of hikes in the Portland area. One was to Angel’s Rest and another to Horsetail Falls, both in the Columbia Gorge area. I even went on something of a hike in Washington during the Twin Peaks festival. I have a book which lists 50 hikes within 50 miles of Portland and maybe one day I’ll do them. I already have my next location picked out.

Angel's Rest

Horsetail Falls

My friend Dan is trying to talk me into climbing to the top of Mt Rainier in 2017.  Since I moved to Portland, I’ve always said that I would never try to climb a real mountain (Diamondhead doesn’t count).  Every winter I heard stories about people getting lost or stranded on our local mountain, Mt. Hood.  I say that you have to be crazy to want to climb a mountain.  This does sound tempting, though.  I’ll have to think about it.

Hiking has been fun, especially when I’ve gone with friends.  I hope to be able to go more frequently.  A friend of mine goes hiking almost every weekend during the summer.  It’s good exercise and I get some great photos along the way.  Maybe I’ll do some winter hiking. Maybe I’ll get in good enough shape to climb Mt. Rainier.

Run, Will, Run

Tuesday, September 22nd, 2015 No comments

Back in the spring, I started a new month-long workout routine.  There are some days of the month that this routine calls for me to run for an hour. Yes, a fucking hour.  While I was intimidated by this number at first, I quickly found that it was manageable.

Not long after this I joined a running meetup called the Queer Pacific Running Club.  They go for a five mile run in Forest Park in NW Portland every Saturday morning and then have brunch afterwards.  They have people of all levels normally, but I’m usually one of the slowest.  I don’t make it to many of these meetings because it takes up a large chunk of my Saturday and I hate feeling like I’m holding people up with my slowness.  They’re a friendly bunch of people and many of them are members of other groups that I participate in.

Not long before this I had started Couch to 5K.  I did this on the treadmill at the gym.  I think I got to my next to last week when I ran with Queer Pacific for the first time and completed the run, so I never bothered finishing c25k.  I’ve participated in 2 5ks in the past few months.

I really enjoy running though I don’t do it as consistently as I should.  I understand the runner’s high now.  Most of my running is at the gym and occasionally I’ll go running in my neighborhood or in Forrest Park.  The most I’ve gone is about 5.75 miles.  I hope to increase that and increase my pace.  I’ll probably keep doing fun 5ks. Maybe I’ll do 10ks since that’s only about half a mile more than my max.  I don’t know if I’ll ever do a half marathon or anything crazy like that.  I’m planning on going for a run after work today and I plan on joining Queer Pacific for the first time in a while this weekend.  I hear there have been a bunch of new faces recently and socializing was one of the main reasons I joined that group in the first place.

LKDC is Back!

Friday, August 21st, 2015 1 comment

You probably didn’t notice, but the site has been down for the past 3 weeks or so.  I decided to move all of my domain registrations and hosting accounts to a new company, because the costs were getting out of hand at the old company.  This domain was set to expire on August 2, so I transferred it over to the new company a few days in advance.  I didn’t back up my site the way I should have, so I thought it was going to be a pain to re-create it in its new home.  I turned out not to be so bad at all.  I delayed it for a while, but then I realized I needed to go ahead and get started on it so I can continue my streak of having at least 1 post per month for the past 11 years.

I’ll spend the next few weeks getting everything running the way it used to, the best I can remember it.  I may take this opportunity to make some changes.  Hopefully, I’ll make more frequent updates.  Hopefully, nothing broke and everyone is actually seeing this. :)

20 Years of Making Money

Monday, July 6th, 2015 No comments

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Before I left for Portland about 3.5 years ago, I went to visit my mom in Jackson, MS. While I was going through my old stuff I came across my old pay stubs, which I used to save. I found my very first one from my first job and snapped a picture of it.

A few weeks back I was going through pictures on my phone and noticed the date. I made a note to say something about it on this day. 20 years, y’all!

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I Am Sexy

Saturday, July 4th, 2015 3 comments

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Wow! My dating life has taken off over the past couple of weeks. It’s not surprising that losing fat and putting on some muscle can make you much more appealing. People have told me that I seem more confident and my attitude has changed. I’d like to think that has something to do with it as well, but that part could be a direct result of losing fat and putting on muscle. But I guess physical appearance is what makes them interested in the first place.

I’m 36 and the guys that I have been out with lately are all between 20 and 25. I’ve seen one guy twice. This is surprising to me because most guys that young are only interested in guys around that age. In my experience, at least. I have been told that I look younger than I actually am though. It’s nice to hear guys tells me that I’m sexy, that I’m fun to hang out with, and they had fun when we did adult-type activities together.

Growing up, some of my friends would tell me that I wasn’t any fun to hang out with. Some of them would act like they were my friends, but would talk about me behind my back. This kind of thing lasted even into my college years, so even now I’m sometimes surprised when people like me and want to hang out with me.

When these nice, young guys are saying great things about me, there’s a small part of me that thinks there must be a catch. Are these guys up to something? Are they having fun at my expense? Is this some kind of joke? How can they like me?

Hopefully one day I’ll be able to get over these kinds of doubts and truly accept these guys as genuine. I know that I’m awesome and all the friends I’ve made in recent years and dates I’ve had in recent weeks are learning it as well.

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